So here we just like to welcome back a lovely car and once again.
Hello Karen.
Hello.
Say hello to all the good people at home.
Oh you good people at home say hello to Karen.
OK.
And so I just want to give you a bit more context around this process.
I'm going to guide Karen through all right.
Now this is an interesting process.
This one I just want to cast your mind back to the last video that I shared and the last section of
the course remember we've talked about those two different places we can be in life.
We have our current state and then we have this ideal state of the present state an ideal state.
And we're not truly all in this constant ongoing place of comparison where we're judging ourselves and
response to where we are in life where we want to be.
So if we are not it's where we want to be at any one given moment in stage of our life then we have
a bit of a tendency of beating ourselves up and being tough on ourselves and all of this kind of thing.
Have you ever had a conversation with anyone who just says oh I'm just not where I should be in life.
I just not where I should be in my careers I'm not where I should be in my personal finances or in my
relationships.
I'm not married I should be married by No I should be in a really responsible job by you know and so
on so forth.
Who makes the rules.
That's right.
We each make the rules we each determine where we shouldn't shouldn't be in life.
So and this is about giving Karen a new vision or helping current to shape a new vision for her future.
All right a new ideal state for herself if you like.
All right a new self concept.
Who does it she's ultimately going to commit to becoming.
No that will hopefully at least identify the limiting beliefs and patterns of thinking that have held
Karen back in the past.
All right.
Incidentally there's always going to be something.
So when we first formed the first version of this course around about three years ago.
All right.
We're having conversations but just around different issues and different challenges back then.
All right.
So it doesn't matter.
Coaching is can I can something to be a lifelong process for some people.
Why.
Because we always have stuff to work through on our goals.
And the goal posts will always change.
All right.
So the processes that we take someone through right now and could be just as relevant to them you know
in three years from now or something like this and it's not that we're looking to foster relationships
of dependency but and we just want to be mindful that people are always looking for new ways to move
forward and progress in life.
All right.
So this vision that goes on current goes onto to forge.
No isn't going to be relevant for her anymore.
Once she's got there.
All right she's going to be driven.
Then looking for a new vision or a new goal or something like this life is progressive.
All right.
So what I wanted to hear Karen I just want to to use that model that a shared in the last video.
This belief modification process.
All right.
Now we're kind of moving beyond belief.
No.
All right.
If we can just establish the reason why you Dawn halve some of the outcomes and the results in your
life that you want.
The reason is the reason is because of my own lack of anger and apathy your own lack of effort and apathy.
No this is a real issue.
How are you feeling about being this honest.
I'm OK with it now.
I've gone there.
I've made peace with it.
So you're OK about being on this honest no.
How would you feel about being this honest.
And a few days ago when when I first sprang this little bad boy on you a little bit uncomfortable a
little bit uncomfortable.
All right.
So you'll hopefully be happy to hear this isn't about looking at your beliefs anymore or your attitudes
or the past or why you haven't had the results that you've heard in the past.
This is no about shifting your focus away from the past and towards the future.
All right.
No this is one of those coaching processes we want to give our clients and those people that were working
with the opportunity to remain totally conscious keep their eyes open or you can actually close your
eyes for this one.
No.
And whether a client keeps her eyes open or closed is going to be determined by how the best margin
and focus.
All right so this is all about mental imagery it's about them really crafting a vision for what they're
going to go on to do and who they're going to become.
At some point in the future you're with me.
Yes.
So this is about you know preparing yourself to get yourself in a place we are really focusing though
on your future so you can keep your eyes open or your eyes closed.
All right.
So I just want you to picture this point in the future which could be a couple of years from now where
you are just confidently and boldly being this person that you really want to be you're doing this thing
that you wanted to.
You don't have a problem communicating openly honestly with people you're just being yourself your oven
a whole lot of value you're not holding back in any way whatsoever.
Apathy and effortlessness is no longer an issue for you.
You really are making a positive impact and pretty much everything that you do.
You're nodding your head.
I'm assuming this is going to be the kind of place for you.
Were you hoping to to get to the stage of life where you really are now making a positive impact.
Yeah cool.
So what I'm going to invite you to do know is just on a really practical level just look around at your
environment you know where you are in when this is who you are with or the external factors going on
in this place for your you head.
Just just speak Hmm I would just say what you see and I hope you're at home with a group of women a
group of women and it's a group discussion and I'm meeting you're leading a group discussion.
What are you talking about and we're talking about changing in life and becoming empowered.
You're talking about changing in life and becoming empowered.
So what is it then that you're here encouraging all these ladies to leave behind all their limited belief
of the past such as such as there are not enough there that you like mine and life is meant to be easy
and life would just work out for you when it.
Kind of like waiting for someone else to come along and take responsibility.
Yeah something like that.
Okay cool.
So if we're just no focused right head on what it is you're actually saying to them what you're actually
doing with your performance.
You know if were to you know step back and look at yourself here you know what are you saying.
What are you doing.
How are you being received by these other people
him my own personal story of some of the police I've left behind you sharing your story.
And encouraging challenging them to consider theirs.
That they're limiting beliefs.
Or an part of and we didn't.
But there's group discussions.
So it's being well received and people are connecting well.
Okay great.
So that's your environment.
That's your behavior.
This is what you're saying and doing.
Now let's look your capabilities.
All right let's look at your knowledge.
Let's look at your skills.
Let's look at your competencies and let's look at how it is that you've actually developed yourself
over the years that have led yourself to this place.
How have you actually grown what are you able to do.
No.
You were so able to do then
and I'm able to typically manage myself well and in that situation imagine yourself well why is this.
Because fear isn't an option.
I'm just confident in sharing my own story.
And there's no barrier there.
There's no bias.
Does this mean that you're a lot more aware of yourself.
I'm a lot more aware of myself and more well versed in doing things of this nature.
So that it's not a big deal for me.
It's just become a bit more normal.
It's not a big deal for you.
So I'm operating on this level of capability and competency though is just a lot more natural.
That's a lot more normal.
And why is this is because you've practiced you've had quite a bit of practice.
No I've had quite a practice.
You've had quite a bit of practice and you know at this stage of your life where you're actually quite
capable and you're really quite calm competent.
I take it this is really boosted your confidence as well yeah that's boosted my confidence.
Yeah.
I don't have not got a big question mark over my head anymore so I know that you've learnt and you've
grown this way and you've managed to master this aspect of your life.
You are hoping to master.
I mean is it really anything else moving forward that you wouldn't be able to overcome and accomplish
i.e. is there any other goals that you realistically wouldn't be able to pursue and achieve.
No not with the right strategy.
Yeah it's gonna be quite sort of possible for you.
Fantastic.
So I'm guessing from this place and world's your oyster as a whole world of opportunity out there yeah
I feel a lot more prepared and positive about tackling new things.
Cool fantastic.
So in terms of your beliefs no when your final use.
What is it that you actually hold true here.
What what is it your your you believe in no or are prioritizing or volume in know that you perhaps weren't
valuing or believe in a few years ago when you weren't you weren't making the same path of getting these
results.
Progress is one of them.
So you've made progress or you're continuing to make progress continuing to make progress as I choose
to share and speak out.
I'm helping other people to make progress as well.
Just to clarify is was progress is that kind of like like a destination like somewhere we're working
towards.
Or is it more of a process where it's more a process.
It's kind of like we never stop making making progress.
Yeah.
Okay.
So what is it you would say.
You're really believing about yourself.
No in terms of your abilities your competencies your ability to learn and solve problems is skill set.
What do you believe.
No you perhaps don't believe in
and believing that I'm more than a more than enough in this to be able to do this to lead that's for
these women and what impact this make and know how can you see that your beliefs are impacting and influencing
others.
I can see that the my my approach of you know having an influence on them because they're seeing me
as empowered.
I'm even just picking up from an something they find attractive.
And what for themselves.
So I guess at this stage these ladies are gonna be asking you questions about the steps you've taken
along the way.
How it is that you've done the things you've done how you've gotten results you've got and how they
can perhaps start being a little bit more like you.
So I guess it kind of puts you in quite a strong position to be able to really coach and lead or mentor
or influence other people well which kind of fest doesn't it.
Once we're more aware we're better at self managing once we're self managing the more it's easier for
us to influence socially.
Yeah.
Interesting isn't it.
So if it was no just to ask you to focus right in on your identity who you are who you're actually being
here.
Who you are.
Actually being here for these people who are you being.
It's not about what you're thinking.
It's not about how you're feeling it's who you're actually being for them.
And truth.
I'm being really giving offering them a lot and really giving also being
compassionate.
Being compassionate.
Yes.
This means you can relate to where they are.
And this stage of the journey.
Yeah.
And not speaking in any kind of condescending way to not speaking to them condescending.
You you've not got yourself up in some sort of pedestal speaking into them as being broke and people
were less of an honor.
There's no pride or arrogance in here.
No so we'll see.
Being from
sincere sincere you're being sincere.
How specifically are you being sincere
by handling this topic of beliefs like me in an honorable honorable way and an honorable way.
Yeah.
It's a serious topic and it's not a sore topic we can just handle loosely is a no so go do sternly but
compassionately respectfully getting the balance between them something that's occurred somewhere in
between.
In it.
Yeah.
Okay.
We're just wonderin you know as your being this person for these for these people know what what purpose
does this does this serve.
I mean how does this relate to your to a bigger picture in life.
And I'm doing something meaningful but it's about me actually giving back to the people opposed to as
opposed to worrying about myself or
focusing on quite small and insignificant stuff like fears insecurities.
And even just some of the practicalities of my responsibilities like where
the activities like stuff work or whatever that is just daily tasks that I can spend a lot time focusing
on and that I don't really get onto the more meaningful stuff.
So the best now is the more meaningful stuff about making a difference.
So this is kind of going to become your your outlet.
The means through which you can start loving in a way that's gonna be really meaningful for you.
We can start making this impact that you want to make.
Yeah.
Interesting.
It's going gonna ask you to open your eyes back up again.
No.
All right saw that have done there.
That was just a mental imagery exercise.
This was guiding Curran through these six different levels of looking at life.
We'll look at you know ask current first and foremost just to look at her environment which is one level
of vision.
Are you aware she was external factors that we encouraged current to look at our behaviors and how she
was being what she was doing and what she was saying.
We then looked at current it and visualize her capabilities i.e. what skills and knowledge should grew
in and how she'd developed between here and there.
And then we invited current to explore her beliefs and our values what she was believing about herself
what she was valuing and actually prioritizing.
At this stage in our in our life and for this kind of allows my clients to do and ask current to give
us some feedback shortly.
Again kind of do a bit of a contrast of analysis where current can though start comparing where she
is today to where she actually genuinely wants to be in the future.
And from there this will open up a whole new realm of opportunity and options for our well ask character
to discuss and share with us just in a moment.
No.
One of the one of the ideas I like to discuss is the is a vision that we can have for our future isn't
so much what we go going to do but it's actually more about who we go on to become yes.
And this is kind of the part purpose of this exercise.
All right.
Because most people when we ask them who are you there wouldn't have the faintest idea on how to even
start us you know answering that question.
But once we've kind of invited our clients to start reflecting and considering and visualizing who it
is that it could become then answering the who are my question becomes a little bit easier.
Right now we're gonna be coming onto the core identity model shortly to really flesh the sites all right.
And you're gonna to love this one I promise you be here of no US current just to simply look at who
she's been.
At this stage of our life and the future in terms of this vision this vision that she has she's gonna
go on to become and then just simply tie his vision for who she's become and with a higher purpose.
No that's what I've done.
This is the process is just a conversation.
So if you want the practices at home you can do so just use the worksheet that were shared with you.
Kind of like as a game as a template.
It'll take you a few Gore is just to get competent unconfident doing this but you got to start somewhere.
All right.
To start with friends loved ones family members or invite someone inside of the ecology community or
inside of the practice makes permanent group to be a willing volunteer to to let you practice on them.
But and Karen what was this experience like for you.
I mean what what was it that you went on to see and hear that a few were like.
There must be really kind of fine tuned and focus in on this vision that you have for this point in
the future.
I actually really enjoyed the process.
I quite like visualization and it made this picture mean future become so much more real and as I was
visualizing I I felt stronger within myself and like I'd like I'd really matured and I could actually
see myself having matured.
And when you asked the question about what values are you prioritizing here and I said progress and
that's a huge difference from before which before you might have said several security security who
am feeling safe feel comfortable yeah and that just highlighted to me that like at that point when I
was prioritizing progress I felt comfortable prioritizing progress and there wasn't any doubt about
whether I wanted to do that or not it was just normality was part of life and
I'd become comfortable being uncomfortable and which is actually what I really want.
So it was it was I was really happy to see myself in that light.
So I think that's really helped me.
It not not focused now on what the problem is or our belief but actually the problem kind of becomes
irrelevant though doesn't it.
The police becomes irrelevant.
Yeah I know.
I've kind of got this picture of how I can be and how can I actually work my learnings that I've actually
already got.
Just it's just more about me practicing.
Now that's interesting so it would seem to me that just after like an exercise like this is gonna be
easier for you to focus more upon what you do want than upon what you're doing.
Yeah.
Because we tend to not truly gravitate towards those things in life that we focus on the most.
And when people focus on the things that they don't want in life they have a tendency of navigating
their way towards those things.
But when we have a clear concise accurate vision for our future and we can see this and we can feel
it we can really can really grasp it.
It's a lot easier to make decisions that are in alignment with us.
This vision is here so we can say it already feels easier to feel was easier because we're crystal clear
on what we actually want.
Interesting fascinating idea.
Alrighty.
Thank you very much Curran.
Quite a straightforward process once again.
It really is this is just a mental imagery exercise but you can gauge your clients through.
So remember practice doesn't make us perfect for this stuff.
It just makes us permanently better than what we've ever been before.
So why not go and find someone today as a friend family member loved one or whoever and just guide them
through this exercise.
Ideally the same person you have in practice and all of the other exercises on who knows you might even
have a couple of clients by now.
So you found this demonstration useful.
This is no really for the purpose of steering our clients away from their beliefs from their limiting
beliefs and ideas and ways of thinking and only new gear and they're focused towards that which they
actually want instead and I think here we've just done that quite well.
So have you found this insightful interesting and we'll see you again in the next clip.